The Imperfect Speaker
By Arvee Robinson
This topic is different from what I normally write about. It’s not about you becoming the perfect speaker, but being an imperfect speaker. A lot of times, you will see another speaker on stage and compare yourself to that speaker. You’ll say things like, “Wow, I wish I was that good!” or “Wow, I should be doing that” or “I should have a coaching program” or “I should create YouTube videos.”
I should, I should, I should. No!
The one thing you don’t realize is that the speaker on stage has probably been travelling their journey for years ahead of you. You will get there, too, with training, with practice and with mentoring.
The first thing about being an imperfect speaker is not to compare yourself with anyone else. You may think he was a success overnight, but it really took him 20 years to get there. It’s just you don’t see that. You don’t know the journey they’ve been on, and chances are, if you knew the journey, you wouldn’t want it.
One of my superstar clients, Angela, struggled with speaking. She had a great testimony. She vowed to God that she would share her testimony and dedicate her life to it. She went to different places to share her testimony, called Miracles in Action, and got very little results–until she joined my yearlong Mastermind program. (My yearlong Public Speaking Mastermind program is a part of my four-day Speaker Training Intensive.)
At that time we learned that Angela wasn’t connecting to her message anymore. She was desensitized. After working with me, going through the training, we opened it up to where she could once again connect with her message.
Since that time, doors have flung open for her. She spoke at my last event, Christian Women in Business Who Rock. One of my friends was on the male panel. He’s a producer, and when he heard her story, he wanted to produce a movie documentary on her life. The next thing that happened was Michelle Paterson heard her speak and invited her to speak at the California Women’s Conference to 10,000 women.
It sounds pretty sensational, doesn’t it? You may be saying to yourself, “Wow, I wish I was blessed like that” or ” I wish God would give me favor like that” or “I wish I could do that.” You don’t know what Angela gave up to get there. What she gave up, as she shares in her testimony, were her two sons who were killed in an auto accident.
Never wish to be like another speaker because God gave you your message. Only you can deliver that message to people that can only hear it from you. Nobody else. You have got a message that only you can talk about. I can’t do your message. I can’t give you your message. You’ve got it alone. Period. Nobody else has this message and nobody else can deliver it.
I used to tell people, if you can’t deliver your message it will be taken away from you and given to someone else who can. That’s what I used to think.
Several months ago, while I was in church, the pastor said, “God has given you gifts that only you can use. And if those gifts aren’t used, they will be unused for all eternity.” Unused for all eternity!
That’s the same with your message because that’s a gift, too. If you don’t get out there, it will be undelivered forever! Forever! That opportunity to reach those poor souls that you were supposed to help, to end their suffering, to change their lives, and to create their legacy is gone. Gone! This is serious. It’s not something with which you can play around.
God’s given you this message. Get trained and get out there. I’m here for you. Do whatever you need to do to get trained. Start by reading my blog or blogs, or come to my live training sessions. Get a ferocious appetite over this next month, so that you can get out there and speak.
Don’t focus on perfection. Focus on completion. You’ll never be the perfect speaker because there is no such thing. Embrace the idea of being an imperfect speaker and get out there and start helping people with your message. Let me share a story with you. You may know it because it’s been around for a long time.
The Broken Pot
A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on the end of a pole, which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years, this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his master’s house.
Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect in the end for which it was made. The poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfections, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years, of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream.
“I am ashamed of myself and I want to apologize to you.”
Why?” asked the water bearer. “What are you ashamed of?”
“I have been able for the past two years to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house. Because of my flaws you have to do all of this work and you don’t even get full value from your efforts,” said the pot.
The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot. In his compassion, he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”
Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path and it cheered up some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load. So again, the pot apologized to the water bearer for its failure.
The water bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path and every day when we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have had this beauty to grace his house.
Each of us has our own unique flaws. We’re all cracked pots, but if we allow the Lord to use our flaws to grace His Father’s table, in God’s great economy, nothing goes to waste. So don’t be afraid of your flaws, use them. So that’s how you can be an imperfect speaker.
And lastly, let me ask you, what are you waiting for? Is there something else you’ve got to get done? Oftentimes, this is what I hear: “I’ve got to perfect this.” “I’m still working on my story.” “I’ve got to have product.”
You don’t have to have anything. Nothing. You have everything that you need inside you and what needs to be learned outside, if you’ve got the time, you can learn by becoming a protégé in my program and gaining access to speaker training downloads. My whole entire speaker system is available to download. Scripts to get speaking engagements are in my archives.
Everything you need is right here, right now. Sign up for my Speaker Training Intensive, coming March 12-15, 2015. I only work with 10 people so don’t delay. In this four-day training, you’re up in front of people the whole time speaking and getting your signature speech done.
Whatever it takes, you need to start focusing on public speaking for 2015. The world has been waiting for your words for a long time now. It’s time to end the suffering of those who need to hear your message. It’s time for you to just be that imperfect speaker.
This inspirational message is to get you out there. All that you need is within you and anything outside that you need is inside the Passionately Speaking Toolbox archive. There are over 500 recordings for you, such as: How to Get Those Speaking Engagements, How to Craft Your Speech, How to Dress When You Speak, How to Be On a Panel.
Make public speaking one of your marketing goals for 2015. Make a goal to speak at least once a week. Get out there and start getting speaking engagements. Go anywhere people will listen.
Remember, you need to do at least 200 public speeches before you even have to worry about selling from the platform. A lot of people think they have to sell because they see other speakers doing it. You’re not them, and they’re not you. You are where you are on your journey; so don’t ever compare yourself to anybody else. You’re responsible only for you and the message you’ve been given to share with others.
Arvee Robinson is The Master Speaker Trainer, International Speaker and Author. She teaches business owners, service professionals, and entrepreneurs how to use public speaking as a marketing strategy to attract more clients, generate unlimited leads and grow their businesses effortlessly. She teaches a proven speaker system for delivering persuasive presentations, and easy formulas for creating killer elevator speeches and magnetic self-introductions. Arvee has helped hundreds of individuals win clients and close more sales every time they speak. She offers private coaching, workshops, and weekly teleclasses. Her programs will make you money for the rest of your life.
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